We laughed, we cried (no make that wept), then danced and dined at Josephine and Damian’s 50th Wedding Anniversary celebration. Their relationship is a testament to half a century of love, commitment and friendship with more than 100 years of living, combined. There was not a dry eye in the house as the couple made their way together slowly, steadily and at times somewhat feebly to renew their vows before the room full of family and friends.
Did I mention how beautiful the couple looked? The bride was adorned in an exquisite champagne gown made of lace and satin which complimented her beautiful caramel complexion and eyes that were a kaleidoscope of green, purple and violet, depending upon which way their sparkle caught the light. No less dazzling was the handsome groom Damian, decked out in a black tuxedo, white vest with a grey and black striped Ascot. The twinkle in his eye was exclusively for Josephine, the woman he had taken for his own 50 years ago, and maintains to this day.
The couple was obviously delighted to renew the vows that they made so long ago, and have somehow managed to live out the meaning of, over the course of time… a really long time…. The love in the room was overwhelming. Perhaps this toast made to the couple, says it all… “It is hard enough to stay married for 50 seconds, never mind 50 years… I don’t know how you guys did it!”
I think I know their secret. At one point Josephine joked with Damian, “Who is the boss?” He very reverently responded “You are, only you” and she nuzzled to his neck as they danced. In the blink of an eye their faces transformed to the days of their youth. What a powerful tribute to their love. The celebration made me realize that love is a verb. Love is an action, it is the activity the hard work that we do unselfishly for someone else, that benefits us most. The kindness and caring that this couple continued to demonstrate let everyone know that this is a true love, time-tested and still going strong.
Makin’ Whoopie. The song goes “you’d better keep her, you’ll find it’s cheaper, than Makin’ Whoopie”. As I kid money book author I am always considering the issue of cost versus value. Usually because our wallet goes where the heart lies. I thought to myself, ‘Cheaper to keep her?’ Not! In this case, it’s quite the opposite. It would have been more expensive to lose her and visa-versa – that much is obvious from the way that they treat each other. The couple also had a lot of fun salsa dancing, and the crowd cheered them under the limbo pole.
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.” 1 Corinthians 13:4-8
The most rewarding work in the world is to love. Love is the greatest. Whether it is to love for your partner, your child, your career, your art or yourself, love is a verb.
Candi Sparks is the author of children’s books about money Can I Have Some Money?.
Educating Children About Money, Max Gets It! and Nacho Money. She is the Brooklyn mother of two and is on Facebook and Twitter.